Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).
Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.
Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.
What are some cool confidence hacks?
Avoids sugar and is very fit.
Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.
Saving $10,000 is a goal.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.
Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.
Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.
Why do I feel like something bad is going to happen to me?
Does not procrastinate.
How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?
Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.
How can I move on from my ex?
How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?
Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.
Living to your full potential is a goal.
Was Jimmy Carter a good President of the United States?
What I need from you?
Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.
The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.
Where are the big girls? This is the first time I've seen a bigger lady boy and that's awesome .. you should post more of them here, nothing wrong with a thick black lady
Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.
Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.
Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.
What is the difference between Michael Corleone’s marriage to Apollonia Vitelli and Kay Adams?
Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.
I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?
Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).
What are Best Breakfast Places in Pune?
In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.
Losing 20kg is a goal.
Opens a business and makes WiFi money.
How do police officers feel about the fear they instill into criminals?
However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:
First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.
Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.
Is Obito Uchiha redeemable?
Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.
Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.
“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.
How do you weigh in on the Vance-couch conversation?
Ask yourself:
Big dreamer but only in his mind.
Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.
What can you do if someone makes a false accusation against you?
Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.
Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.
That's it for today.
Hangs out with loser friends.
Making more friends is a goal.
PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.
An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):
The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.
Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.
Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.
Procrastinates a lot.
Do not set goals—set systems.
